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I’m not going to make it a habit to post copies of Twitter responses, but as this site was setup to document the replies to initial tweets about Danielle, it seems fitting to conclude with the responses to the address I gave at Danielle’s funeral yesterday.

It continues to be a real source of comfort to both myself and Liza to read your responses and to appreciate how Danielle’s short life did have a real impact. We plan to add a few further posts about Danielle, perhaps also one about why I used Twitter, but this is the last time I plan to grab responses and add them to this site.

April 13 18:28
We had our baby daughter's funeral today – this is a copy of the funeral address -
http://www.djfield.co.uk/2010/04/13/funeral-address/

chrisrat: @andyfield I have no idea how you managed to get through that – a lovely and emotional address
amandasalt: @andyfield that was so beautiful, Andy, I hope the funeral brought you some comfort
johnelworthy: @andyfield I had no idea of your family's grief, thankyou for putting the address on the web. It is poignant and deeply moving
ZoeRoss19: @andyfield just a gorgeous address, Andy- she clearly was a brave (& very beautiful) baby. Best wishes. http://bit.ly/bHR3c0
sghani: @andyfield a very poignant address. So sorry to hear about your loss.
valleseco: @andyfield God bless you all. Can't even begin to think how you must be feeling.
4goggas: @andyfield What a moving tribute to your daughter, Andy. A brave post by Liza too.
geraldhaigh1: @andyfield Thank you for sharing your talk Andy. Again, you've made it possible for Danielle to touch all of us in different ways.
natsait: @andyfield they are beautiful words Andy, a lovely tribute on a sad day, our thoughts are with you.
neilmcdonald7: @andyfield What an amazing tribute to a special little girl. Got a lump in the throat thinking of what those words truly mean. God bless
shervette1: @andyfield such beautiful words. As always you are in my thoughts and prayers.
tricias: @andyfield thnks for sharing, she was a little girl who touched a lot of lives. Will continue to think of you all as you take the next steps

Today we held Danielle’s funeral at the Cambridge Crematorium at 9.15am. We were delighted with the turnout which included family, friends and work colleagues. Far more that we thought would be able to make it.

This was the text of the address that I gave at Danielle’s funeral:

It is really difficult to know what to say.

It all seems so unfair. Our little daughter Danielle looked so perfect.

What we can offer is thanks.

Thank you to our family and friends. You have been incredibly supportive in these really difficult and challenging times. Keep talking to us – it really does help.

Thank you to the medical staff in the delivery and intensive care units. You helped us have hope but also kept the situation clear – this helped prepare us for the worst.

Thank you to Reverend Neate – you broke the rules to baptise Danielle on Good Friday and you’ve been a real source of comfort for us.

Thank you to our lovely daughter Jennifer for being so full of energy. This has kept us going. [signs] Thank you Jennifer.

Thank you to Liza for being so strong. Nobody wants to go through this but your strength has really helped me. I love you so much – and I really do believe this has made us stronger.

Yet, most of all, we must say thank you to Danielle. In the eight days of your life we didn’t get to know much but we did find out a few things.

You were really tough. Once you clamped your hand onto a finger you didn’t let go. You had a really great grip.

You had a good sense of humour. The nurses let mummy know that she was now in charge of the nappies. Mummy changed one and made it look easy. Yet when it was the nurses’ turn you delivered some serious surprises. Excellent timing.

You had a well refined sense of taste. When you cuddled into me, your eyes kept looking at whatever shirt I was wearing. You couldn’t take your eyes off the top quality gear. Clear evidence you appreciated Daddy’s dress sense.

You took your own decisions. From the start we wanted to respond to what you let us know. The consultants told us this would be best – and we were determined to listen. You gave us hope and joy. Yet as time went on it became more evident just how ill you were.

When we got the results of your MRI scan it was clear that you didn’t have the capacity to breathe properly. On your final night, just one day later, you couldn’t have made it more comfortable for us.

Your breathing tube was removed at 11.05pm and you went asleep in your Moses basket. Around 50 minutes later you started making deep breathing noises. We checked and were told that you weren’t in pain.

I picked you up and rocked you. You felt so peaceful but were clearly on the way out. Your mum then took over and held you tight. At exactly 1.05am, two hours later, you stopped breathing.

We’d not had enough time to get to know you but you’d been kind enough to give us time to say goodbye.

We’ll never forget you Danielle – thank you for being our daughter.

This post – like others containing grabbed Twitter replies – has been dated to link directly with the chronology of Danielle’s life. Times quoted underneath tweets are GMT (i.e. -1 from current British Summer Time)

9.50am Wed 7th April
Just registered both the birth and death of Danielle. Difficult but now done. Still had to pay £7 admin fee!

dajbelshaw: @andyfield Difficult stuff, Andy. Hope you can remember her appropriately and with love but also all move on. :-)
stuartridout: @andyfield I can't imagine how difficult this time is for you. Thinking about you and wishing you strength to get through this time.
moodlefairy: @andyfield I have been thinking of you a lot in recent days – like others – don't know what to say but want to give my support x
tomhcooper: @andyfield a very diificult time. I believe the photo with you wife will remain with you always. I say a prayer for u n u family every day!
geraldhaigh: @andyfield Still in our thoughts. Danielle will always be part of the long story of your lives, spoken of by her sister, too, as she grows.
NeilAdam: @andyfield I'm so sorry to hear that Andy. I had missed the earlier tweets. Awful. Thinking of you all
hopkinsdavid: @andyfield Really sorry to hear your tragic news, our thoughts are with you
Joga5: @andyfield The absurdities of officialdom – guarenteed to make you smile or seethe. Look after you and your girls this week x
_MisterG: @andyfield I'm *so* sorry. I missed the earlier tweets due to the hectic weekend.
teach_ict: @andyfield There is nothing I can say to ease your pain, but like others, I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you both x x

20:17 April 3rd
Overwhelmed by all your kind wishes – we really appreciate them and they have given my wife and I real help + made us cry!

irasocol: @andyfield Just caught up this. I am so sorry for you, your family. Wishing you recovery, and peace.
markw29: @andyfield Really sorry to hear your news. We've been thinking of your family all week
geraldhaigh: @andyfield The way you've shared Danielle's life with us has been inspirational as well as moving. We owe you and her much gratitude.
SchoolDuggery: @andyfield was checking your feed hoping to find good news about Danielle. I am so sorry. A terrrible loss.

20:14 April 3rd
Thanks so much for messages about the passing of our baby daughter Danielle. Friends, students – even people we don't know – all so kind.

MECField: @andyfield So sorry to hear your news. We are all thinking of you and Liza and Jennifer. If there is anything we can do please let me know.
pastratford: @andyfield: Very sorry to find out about Danielle. Our thoughts are with all 3 of you. At times like this life can seem very unfair.
tutor2u_econ: @andyfield Andy my thoughts are with all of you at this time, take care Geoff

2:47am April 3rd
Very sad to announce the death of our daughter, Danielle Jane Field at 1.05am this morning. She fell asleep in her Mum and Dad's arms.

unklar: @andyfield I am so sorry for your whole family's loss. I'm the praying type, so I'll say a prayer for all of you.
juliafallon: @andyfield My deepest condolences to you and your wife. :-(
yearsixteacher: @andyfield Devastated to hear the news. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
ianaddison: @andyfield Sorry to hear about your daughter, our thoughts are with you
mynictle: @andyfield that's so sad, really sorry to hear x
fuzzydoguk: @andyfield So so sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts go out to you and your family, be strong – James
tobiefysh: @andyfield My thoughts with you and your family.
natsait: @andyfield I am so sorry to hear that Andy. With love natalie
Langwitch: @andyfield oh no. So sorry. Thinking of you all.
dan_bowen: @andyfield so so sorry to hear your sad news Andy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
carolrainbow: @andyfield I am so sorry, I can't imagine anything harder to cope with. Love to you all xx
geraldhaigh: @andyfield Oh Andy. Sheila and I are so sorry to hear your news. We've thought of you every day and will continue to do so.
tutor2u: @andyfield Devasting news Andy – so sad. Danielle is at peace now – having known and felt the love of two adoring parents.
lynnehorn: @andyfield So sorry to hear that – thinking of you all.
dwsm: @andyfield so sorry to hear hear about Danielle. My thoughts are with you and your family.
tomhcooper: @andyfield my prayers n thoughts are with u at this very sad time!
teachernz: @andyfield our thoughts are with you and yours… …
chrisrat: @andyfield Absolutely gutted for you Andy. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
joannejacobs: @andyfield deepest sympathies. so, so sad for you.
grumbledook: @andyfield so so sorry to hear… You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
shervette1: @andyfield so sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you all.
muppetmasteruk: @andyfield so sorry to hear, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
davestacey: @andyfield I'm so sorry to hear your news Andy. We're thinking of you.
timdolan: @andyfield Really sorry, I am praying for you. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. http://j.mp/9o9yNh
AdrianMelrose: @andyfield How terribly sad, our thoughts are with you all.
TinyAcorns: @andyfield so sorry to hear your sad news – you are all in my prayers.
ictrambling: @andyfield Very sad news. Thoughts are with you and your family.
Elsfield: @andyfield so sorry to hear your very sad news
ShellTerrell: @andyfield My prayers are with you and your family
deerwood: @andyfield sometimes our thoughts are not enough but may be all we can offer. sympathy and condolences on your sad loss
alee11: @andyfield My thoughts are with you and your family, I think Danielle has been in so many of our thoughts this week. Take Care.
Daniel_Ley: @andyfield really sorry to hear that, i hope you and your family are alright :( my condolences are with you
plasmarox: @andyfield that's terrible, my thoughts are with you and your family.
Joga5: @andyfield Nothing we can say will ease your pain but we are all thinking of you at this time Bill x
SusanElkinJourn: @andyfield Thinking of you all in your sadness. No need to reply. Susan Elkin
thinkict: @andyfield Heard very sad news. My prayers for you and Liza – and baby Danielle – to find peace and joy despite unexpected outcome.
CarlShepherdson: @andyfield I'm so sorry to hear that Andrew, I'll be thinking of you & your family.
xxcharie: @andyfield May the love you feel around you help ease the ache in your heart. My condolences.
ahrenfelt: @andyfield My thoughts are with you during this difficult time Andrew.
teggie19: @andyfield so very sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are for your family at this time.
melhutch: @andyfield How terrible for you and your family- you are in our thoughts during this awful time.
foxburg: @andyfield our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
416Jesse: @andyfield I'm so sorry for your loss :( That truly breaks my heart
ZoeRoss19: @andyfield Andy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts really are with you and your wife.
stephanrinke: @andyfield So,so sorry to hear about your loss.I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through.My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Liza picking Danielle up

20:08:16 Wed 31st March
Liza did manage to pick Danielle up earlier though

sharnon007: @andyfield you have all been in our thoughts & prayers. Hope everything is great! :0)
chrisrat: @andyfield Thinking of you and your family Andy
markw29: @andyfield Our thoughts are with you and your family
GeoBlogs: @andyfield thinking of you and the family Andy
teggie19: @andyfield Don't have the words, but our best wishes are with you and your family
lisibo: @andyfield – lovely pictures. Glad Liza is up and about. Hoping and praying for beautiful Danielle x
amandasalt: @andyfield tough times, really thinking of you all. she looks beautiful in the photos
Joga5: @andyfield Lovely photos Andy – in our thoughts here
Langwitch: @andyfield thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
dughall: @andyfield Thanks for sharing the photos, Andy. Rooting for you all.
nstone: @andyfield wishing you and your family the very best – thoughts and prayers with you all.

20:02 31st March
Six days on – Liza (wife) doing ok but still in hospital. Danielle (baby) very ill in intensive care – outcome looks increasingly poor :(

DebbieSwan: @andyfield sending you my very best wishes and positive thoughts x
MarieFrance: @andyfield I am sorry- All my thoughts are with you and Lisa, prayers for Danielle
stephanrinke: @andyfield my thoughts and prayers are with you all, Andy!
daveterron: @andyfield We're all rooting for you and your girls. Take care.
ZoeRoss19: @andyfield it must be awful for you – very best wishes to you all
simonrenshaw: @andyfield keeping everthing crossed for you and the family. Hang on in there Fields!
jonesieboy: @andyfield You and yours are in my thoughts every day. Hang on in there.
misterel: @andyfield my thoughts are with you and your family.
sethdickens: @andyfield All 3 of us here hold you guys in our thoughts, Andy.
melhutch: @andyfield Many of us are pulling for you and sending positive thoughts.
juliafallon: @andyfield Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
dajbelshaw: @andyfield Sorry to hear about Danielle, Andy. Good news about Liza though.

March 30th 12:13
One more photo – this time Danielle and I – far fewer wires than before. http://yfrog.com/jukfoj

tobiefysh: @andyfield Thanks man, just teared up at work, my thoughts with you all – She looks like a fighter.
416Jesse: @andyfield My thoughts are with you Andy. Stay strong.
marchawes: @andyfield what a gorgeous baby :) I wish you and your family well

March 30th 12:11
Liza up and walking for first time today – lovely to visit Danielle and she her little eyes open http://yfrog.com/0pfpvj

NeilAdam: @andyfield really sorry to hear about that – just looked back through your tweets. desparate. thoughts & prayers

Tue Mar 30 12:10
Danielle (new baby) still in intensive care but has been stable for nearly 4 days. Brain injury main focus but +ve she is still here :)

Danielle looking at her Mum

Danielle looking at her Mum

March 28th 19:08
Danielle showing signs though – looked at Mummy today and grabbed finger :)

gvibe: @andyfield that does sound very promising, all the best Andy
josepicardo: @andyfield that's very good news – hope more news like that to come
nickdennis: @andyfield Glad to hear that Liza's okay and hope for more good news
sethdickens: @andyfield She looks absolutely wonderful Andy. I really hope everything works out well for you all.
carolrainbow: @andyfield Thinking of you all. Hoping Danielle make a full recovery!
missbrownsword: @andyfield lovely photo, glad to hear they're both doing well
Joga5: @andyfield A lovely photo! Looks like she is fighting hard! Still thinking about you and the clan.
geraldhaigh: @andyfield Thank you for the photo Andy. Many people with you in this. So grateful you're including us. Love to all of you, esp Danielle.
4goggas: @andyfield Good heavens, baby quite a big girl! Hope she recovers quickly. :0)

March 28th 19:06pm
Liza now out of delivery ward after massive issues. Baby Danielle still stable in intensive care – major concern is brain damage

dajbelshaw: @andyfield Glad Liza's OK, Andy. Hoping & praying for baby Danielle…
infernaldepart: @andyfield Great news about Liza, prayers and thoughts with Danielle and family
crowsond: @andyfield Best wishes to you all – hope your fears are unfounded and that your joy will be unconfined
deerwood: @andyfield all yr followers are thinking about you and yr family, wishing the best outcome for all. Stay strong
davestacey: @andyfield Keeping everything crossed for you. Glad signs are positive.

By Danielle’s second day she was looking more stable, but still had many wires and various attachments.  You can see in the photo how she is sporting a white hat – this was created by the NICU team to keep her head covered whilst it had all the brain scanning probes attached.  She continued to have brain scans, but she passed a detailed one without showing any seizures.  This was a good sign at the time.

As you can see in the photos she was also opening her eyes slightly.  She was still heavily under the influence of morphine and the anti-seizure drugs, but it was great to see her grabbing hold of her Dad’s finger and responding to our voices.  One of the consequences of her dramatic delivery was that they had to break her left arm – this was one of the final delivery options following the shoulder dystocia.  The drugs were to keep her conformable after all her injuries.

March 27th 09:13:49
Here is a pic of Danielle and her Mum too: what stars!

teggie19: @andyfield what a lovely family. I hope you can all be together soon! Baby girls are such fighters! Take Care
mynictle: @andyfield lovely pic, hope all will be well very soon x
dwsm: @andyfield lovely photos. My thoughts are with you – hope all is well
tobiefysh: @andyfield in our thoughts. Thanks for sharing pictures.
digitalmaverick: @andyfield Thinking of you, your wife and baby and hoping for the best for you all. Please keep us posted on developments.
dughall: @andyfield I'll add my voice to others wishing you well, Andy. Still thinking of you.
sharnon007: @andyfield Thoughts and prayers going out to all four of you! Congratulations! Can't wait to see more good pics! :0)
lisibo: @andyfield – precious pictures. Thinking of all of you – hope Danielle continues to make progress xx
johnmayo: @andyfield More thoughts & prayers – hope Danielle continues to make progress

Danielle with Dad and her older sister Jennifer

andyfield: This is a picture of Danielle meeting her big sister Jennifer yesterday :) http://yfrog.com/ccq7kjj
about 13 days ago
infernaldepart: @andyfield thanks for the update andy, keep in there.
nicfranc: @andyfield thoughts and prayers for you and your family….hope everything will be ok!

08:41am March 27th
Thanks for messages re Danielle (new baby). She has been stable and alive for 35 hours now – still very poorly but we can just hope

foxburg: @andyfield best wishes to you all, thinking of you.
chrisrat: @andyfield I can't believe I missed your message yesterday. Our thoughts are with you. If there is anything you need, shout
shervette1: @andyfield Thinking of you all still. Can only imagine. Danielle is obviously a fighter!
stevebunce: @andyfield still thinking & praying for you all, Andy
misetak: @andyfield Lovely photo with both your girls. Hoping for more good news.

On Danielle’s first day Liza gradually had wires removed but was still seriously ill. Both sets of grandparents had rushed to see both Danielle and Liza – it was excellent that they’d been able to visit within the first few hours. At the time, we didn’t even know if Danielle would survive that day. I went home briefly to collect a few items and was amazed to see a rainbow near to our house. Thought it was some form of good news, but I guess it was more because it there was rain and sunshine at the same time.

We were given lots of information about what had happened and it started to become clear how ill Danielle was. The consultants were very clear and direct – this, both Liza and I are certain, helped us from the start. It was horrible to find out more details but the situation was made clear from the start.

Liza was wheeled in again to the NICU area. This time she was able to get next to Danielle to really see her face – this was really kind of all the staff. Liza was told she could stay for 15 minutes as she was still under close monitoring. She actually stayed for just over two hours and this explains how both Liza and Danielle are getting observations in some of the photos.

Danielle, due to the ‘brain insult’ (to use the hospital’s terms) had probes all over her head where they were monitoring brain activity to check to seizures. There had been some overnight, but anti-seizure drugs had been given and nothing further was noticed. Danielle was already on a range of drugs and medicines. She was also undergoing a ‘cooling’ process – this was where they gradually cooled her entire body to a low temperature to give her internal organs, but especially her brain, the best chance of recovery. We were told at the time that other organs could recover, but any injury to the brain wouldn’t repair itself so the cooling process was an attempt to minimise damage and preserve what hadn’t been affected. As you can see from the photos, Danielle was covered with a whole range of wires and tubes but seemed comfortable and asleep.

07.51 March 26th
Thanks for messages. Liza (wife) doing better but Danielle (baby) is not. 10lb at birth, got shoulder stuck went 18 mins without breathing

These are photos taken of Danielle (and Liza’s) first difficult hours. Danielle was born at 18.40 and these photos were taken late into the night of 25th and 26th March. Despite Liza’s very poor condition (having lost 3.2 litres of blood), she was determined to be wheeled into the NICU to see our new daughter.

This post has been dated to the approximate chronology when the photos were actually taken