I’m not going to make it a habit to post copies of Twitter responses, but as this site was setup to document the replies to initial tweets about Danielle, it seems fitting to conclude with the responses to the address I gave at Danielle’s funeral yesterday.
It continues to be a real source of comfort to both myself and Liza to read your responses and to appreciate how Danielle’s short life did have a real impact. We plan to add a few further posts about Danielle, perhaps also one about why I used Twitter, but this is the last time I plan to grab responses and add them to this site.
April 13 18:28
We had our baby daughter's funeral today – this is a copy of the funeral address -
Today we held Danielle’s funeral at the Cambridge Crematorium at 9.15am. We were delighted with the turnout which included family, friends and work colleagues. Far more that we thought would be able to make it.
This was the text of the address that I gave at Danielle’s funeral:
It is really difficult to know what to say.
It all seems so unfair. Our little daughter Danielle looked so perfect.
What we can offer is thanks.
Thank you to our family and friends. You have been incredibly supportive in these really difficult and challenging times. Keep talking to us – it really does help.
Thank you to the medical staff in the delivery and intensive care units. You helped us have hope but also kept the situation clear – this helped prepare us for the worst.
Thank you to Reverend Neate – you broke the rules to baptise Danielle on Good Friday and you’ve been a real source of comfort for us.
Thank you to our lovely daughter Jennifer for being so full of energy. This has kept us going. [signs] Thank you Jennifer.
Thank you to Liza for being so strong. Nobody wants to go through this but your strength has really helped me. I love you so much – and I really do believe this has made us stronger.
Yet, most of all, we must say thank you to Danielle. In the eight days of your life we didn’t get to know much but we did find out a few things.
You were really tough. Once you clamped your hand onto a finger you didn’t let go. You had a really great grip.
You had a good sense of humour. The nurses let mummy know that she was now in charge of the nappies. Mummy changed one and made it look easy. Yet when it was the nurses’ turn you delivered some serious surprises. Excellent timing.
You had a well refined sense of taste. When you cuddled into me, your eyes kept looking at whatever shirt I was wearing. You couldn’t take your eyes off the top quality gear. Clear evidence you appreciated Daddy’s dress sense.
You took your own decisions. From the start we wanted to respond to what you let us know. The consultants told us this would be best – and we were determined to listen. You gave us hope and joy. Yet as time went on it became more evident just how ill you were.
When we got the results of your MRI scan it was clear that you didn’t have the capacity to breathe properly. On your final night, just one day later, you couldn’t have made it more comfortable for us.
Your breathing tube was removed at 11.05pm and you went asleep in your Moses basket. Around 50 minutes later you started making deep breathing noises. We checked and were told that you weren’t in pain.
I picked you up and rocked you. You felt so peaceful but were clearly on the way out. Your mum then took over and held you tight. At exactly 1.05am, two hours later, you stopped breathing.
We’d not had enough time to get to know you but you’d been kind enough to give us time to say goodbye.
We’ll never forget you Danielle – thank you for being our daughter.
This post – like others containing grabbed Twitter replies – has been dated to link directly with the chronology of Danielle’s life. Times quoted underneath tweets are GMT (i.e. -1 from current British Summer Time)
9.50am Wed 7th April
Just registered both the birth and death of Danielle. Difficult but now done. Still had to pay £7 admin fee!
20:17 April 3rd
Overwhelmed by all your kind wishes – we really appreciate them and they have given my wife and I real help + made us cry!
20:14 April 3rd
Thanks so much for messages about the passing of our baby daughter Danielle. Friends, students – even people we don't know – all so kind.
2:47am April 3rd
Very sad to announce the death of our daughter, Danielle Jane Field at 1.05am this morning. She fell asleep in her Mum and Dad's arms.
20:08:16 Wed 31st March
Liza did manage to pick Danielle up earlier though
20:02 31st March
Six days on – Liza (wife) doing ok but still in hospital. Danielle (baby) very ill in intensive care – outcome looks increasingly poor
Tue Mar 30 12:10
Danielle (new baby) still in intensive care but has been stable for nearly 4 days. Brain injury main focus but +ve she is still here
March 28th 19:08
Danielle showing signs though – looked at Mummy today and grabbed finger
March 28th 19:06pm
Liza now out of delivery ward after massive issues. Baby Danielle still stable in intensive care – major concern is brain damage
By Danielle’s second day she was looking more stable, but still had many wires and various attachments. You can see in the photo how she is sporting a white hat – this was created by the NICU team to keep her head covered whilst it had all the brain scanning probes attached. She continued to have brain scans, but she passed a detailed one without showing any seizures. This was a good sign at the time.
As you can see in the photos she was also opening her eyes slightly. She was still heavily under the influence of morphine and the anti-seizure drugs, but it was great to see her grabbing hold of her Dad’s finger and responding to our voices. One of the consequences of her dramatic delivery was that they had to break her left arm – this was one of the final delivery options following the shoulder dystocia. The drugs were to keep her conformable after all her injuries.
March 27th 09:13:49
Here is a pic of Danielle and her Mum too: what stars!
08:41am March 27th
Thanks for messages re Danielle (new baby). She has been stable and alive for 35 hours now – still very poorly but we can just hope
On Danielle’s first day Liza gradually had wires removed but was still seriously ill. Both sets of grandparents had rushed to see both Danielle and Liza – it was excellent that they’d been able to visit within the first few hours. At the time, we didn’t even know if Danielle would survive that day. I went home briefly to collect a few items and was amazed to see a rainbow near to our house. Thought it was some form of good news, but I guess it was more because it there was rain and sunshine at the same time.
We were given lots of information about what had happened and it started to become clear how ill Danielle was. The consultants were very clear and direct – this, both Liza and I are certain, helped us from the start. It was horrible to find out more details but the situation was made clear from the start.
Liza was wheeled in again to the NICU area. This time she was able to get next to Danielle to really see her face – this was really kind of all the staff. Liza was told she could stay for 15 minutes as she was still under close monitoring. She actually stayed for just over two hours and this explains how both Liza and Danielle are getting observations in some of the photos.
Danielle, due to the ‘brain insult’ (to use the hospital’s terms) had probes all over her head where they were monitoring brain activity to check to seizures. There had been some overnight, but anti-seizure drugs had been given and nothing further was noticed. Danielle was already on a range of drugs and medicines. She was also undergoing a ‘cooling’ process – this was where they gradually cooled her entire body to a low temperature to give her internal organs, but especially her brain, the best chance of recovery. We were told at the time that other organs could recover, but any injury to the brain wouldn’t repair itself so the cooling process was an attempt to minimise damage and preserve what hadn’t been affected. As you can see from the photos, Danielle was covered with a whole range of wires and tubes but seemed comfortable and asleep.
07.51 March 26th
Thanks for messages. Liza (wife) doing better but Danielle (baby) is not. 10lb at birth, got shoulder stuck went 18 mins without breathing
These are photos taken of Danielle (and Liza’s) first difficult hours. Danielle was born at 18.40 and these photos were taken late into the night of 25th and 26th March. Despite Liza’s very poor condition (having lost 3.2 litres of blood), she was determined to be wheeled into the NICU to see our new daughter.
This post has been dated to the approximate chronology when the photos were actually taken